A black travel influencer’s advice for moving abroad
“No Pigeons” is the name of the spin-off (and lesser) track by Sporty Thievz released in 1999 in response to TLC’s “No Scrubs”. It is also Unbothered critical culture and Unbothered Go away, sister The official requirement of Ineye Komonibo, co-host of the podcast, when looking for a city to live. Absolutely no pigeons. Her “pigeon phobia” partly explains why she is done with New York. “I’m tired. It stresses me out and I feel like my nervous system is shot… There’s a culture of jostling and grinding that’s ingrained in [New York’s] DNA that doesn’t necessarily allow for a certain quality of life that I’m looking for,” Komonibo, who lives in Brooklyn, shared in the latest episode of Go away, sister. “I’ve had enough. I won’t be renewing my lease next year. I’m out.”
Komonibo’s decision to leave the city she calls home for an easier, more carefree life elsewhere is a decision many people — especially black people — have made lately. Ever since the pandemic hit, people have been reassessing their living conditions and choosing to pack up and leave. Whether it’s a short getaway or a life-changing move, Black people are traveling here in 2022. In this episode, the hosts of Go away, sister dig deep into the decision to leave a city, the responsibilities that come with traveling abroad, and why so many black women are leaving America.
“Once I am financially 110% [and] stable or where I want to be, I’m completely out of America,” said Maiya Carmichael, associate social strategist. “Bye-bye, come, never again. Mom sends you a postcard. [laughs] Because I don’t know if this country is for me, so I have to explore the world.
Joining this episode’s hosts is someone who knows a thing or two about exploring the world: travel influencer and entrepreneur Chidi Ashley. She is the Founder and CEO of Luxe Tribes, a travel service and community, which provides travelers with authentic and stress-free experiences. Ashley is also CEO of Readyhubb, a software solutions and marketplace design company that enables independent beauty professionals to market their services and manage their appointments. She’s lived all over the world – USA, Nigeria, South Africa, England, Thailand, Bali, Peru, Canada – and now she’s settled in Dubai. With all of her experience traveling the world, we had to ask Ashley what it’s like to navigate all of these different cultures as a black woman.
“I think eventually you’ll find that whether you’re African or black American – whatever black you are – people just see you as black. And so people will naturally have stereotypes or expectations,” Ashley said. “I’ve kind of just operated in the sense that I’m just going to focus on myself. And if I’m in Dubai, if I’m in Bali, I’m going to carry myself with a confidence that I don’t care if they watching, I don’t care if they’re watching, I’m here to have a good time. I’m here to get what I need from this space while being respectful in this space. Ashley talked more about respect locals on a trip and how to be successful if you choose to travel or move abroad.
For more on Chidi Ashley’s many businesses (yes, she’s reserved and busy) and how to travel ethically (if that’s even possible), listen to the full episode below.
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